Tuesday 17 January 2017

Ritambhara Sahni on Should The National Anthem be made compulsory ??

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To sing or not sing the National Anthem in public theatres.

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Ritambhara Sahni feels absolutely proud to be asked for her quote on To sing or not to sing the National Anthem in public theatres and featured along with the quotes of professionals like Anup Jalota, Kabir Bedi, Anuradha Pal , RJ Archana and many more. 

Ritambhara Sahni is a professional belly dance instructor since years in the city of Mumbai. She creates professional belly dance artists in her students , creates professional belly dance choreographers and even helps her students to start their own belly dance class. 

Ritambhara Sahni's Institute for belly dance is the 1st belly dance class in Mumbai of its kind and is going strong ever since  2005.

Here is the quote of popular celebs as well as Ritambhara Sahni's view on to sing or not to sing the National Anthem.

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17th January , 2017.
To sing or not to sing
The supreme court has stated that the National Anthem must be played before the screening of any movie in public theatres. This has caused quite a discordant note among the citizens. Some are for it and some against it.

Various professional express their opinion about singing the national anthem at movie theaters to Monarose Shelia Pereira

 Singer Anup Jalota Sure it's good thought; but why only before movies? Why not before my concerts too; or first thing in the morning every TV Channel too should air it.        
 Actor Kabir Bedi Cinemas are a great place to enjoy our National Anthem in Dolby sound; our flag fluttering vibrantly, in Panavision. Great decision! It's long been happening at most Mumbai multiplexes. I heard some great renditions at PVR Cinemas by classical musical icons           
 Lawyer Shane Cardoz Yes the National Anthem should be made compulsory as a matter of pride; we all rise up together and feel touched when the National Anthem is being sang/played. It revives my memory in school where we used to sing the National Anthem every day. It's such a story feeling and should be preserved by making it compulsory. The feeling of being Indian through the National Anthem is truly divine  
 Actor Kiran Our Anthem is our pride, our heritage. When we stand and honor our flag and Anthem our hearts swell with joy. It blinds and unites us all in unison. I am happy that it's compulsory to honor it.                        
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When a room full of people come together and sings soulfully as one, it is always beautiful, whether it's in a place of worship or a parade. But should singing an anthem be made compulsory just to prove to my neighbor I'm patriotic? No,it certainly shouldn't be. We are a billion people with a billion different views towards patriotism. If we choose to get employed and pay our taxes,we are patriotic. If we choose to eat, sing or dance to the Western cuisine or arts and yet not forget our Indian heritage, we are patriotic. We don't have to sing an anthem or exclaim slogans every walk of the way to enunciated our deep rooted love for the country and it's heritage. Because a lot of the love also comes from the fact that India chose to be a democratic, encouraging its people to have a freedom of opinion, which I strongly believe in.    
Tabla player Anuradha Pal Yes of course it should be played to instill nationalism and patriotism that is badly needed to be inclucated in the youth who live in India.  

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RJ ARCHANA It is a great way to build a relationship towards your nation. A fabulous opportunity for parents to showcase their love for the Nation to their children when they take them for films. It is a great way to build the love for our nation; which helps build a strong sentiment for us Indians for our country                        
 So what do you think dear reader?                        

By Monarose Shelia Pereira

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Saturday 24 December 2016

Ritambhara Sahni - A funny video of a married couple

My 1st marriage video
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Hahaha - The guys [un]enthusiasm is hilarious --in contrast to the girls excitement.
Husband : 'togetherness' bahut hai
Wife : 'what do you mean togetherness bahut hai ?'
is so typical .....hahahahaha
Look at how he evades that and brings everything to an end ....
Well in India there is a saying that says that ...
' Shaadi ka ladoo  - jo khaye - woh pachtaye aur jo na khaye woh bhi pachtaye'
Which means that if you get married - you suffer
also if you don't get marred - you still suffer.
People are married - some are happily married and some are unhappily married. But I assure you that all of them irrespective of being happy or not are all exactly in a state like the above video :)
Found this video really funny and whoever are the actors - you guys have done a great and realistic job which naturally made me laugh out loud.
The video is so true and is the state I guess of most couples after at least 7 years of marriage [on an average .]

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However , on a serious not - I , Ritambhara Sahni believe that whether you marry or not , its really important to be happy in life. If I find someone who can make me happier than I already am, then marriage is totally worth it for me else I'm happily single.
Do read my essay on Alone and Lonely....
Some of the finest – and funniest – minds in history have waxed lyrical on the joys of wedded bliss. Here are some of their best observations.
1. “I love being married. It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.”
Rita Rudner
2. “If you want your wife to listen to you, then talk to another woman: she will be all ears.”
Sigmund Freud

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3. “Marriage is like a game of chess, except the board is flowing water, the pieces are made of smoke and no move you make will have any effect on the outcome.”
Jerry Seinfeld
4. “Marriage is the bond between a person who never remembers anniversaries and another who never forgets them.”
Ogden Nash

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5. “Marriage is a wonderful institution... but who wants to live in an institution?”
Groucho Marx
6. “No! Please don't eat me! I have a wife and kids – eat them!”
Homer Simpson

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7. “By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you’ll become happy; if you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher.”
8. “There is nothing in the world like the devotion of a married woman. It is a thing no married man knows anything about.”
Oscar Wilde

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9. “Marriage is a wonderful invention: then again, so is the bicycle repair kit.”
Billy Connolly
10. “When a man opens a car door for his wife, it’s either a new car or a new wife.”
Prince Philip

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11. “The best way to get most husbands to do something is to suggest that perhaps they’re too old to do it.”
Ann Bancroft
12. “Always get married in the morning. That way if it doesn’t work out, you haven’t wasted the whole day.”
Mickey Rooney
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Tuesday 6 December 2016

Toxic People and why you should keep away from them by Ritambhara Sahni

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Stay away from toxicity in life
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I have realized that I am in love with imperfection. Perfect things and people have always given me stress and brought me loads of unhappiness at times. I would like to be perfect in what is required and necessary to be perfect at but perfection in everything is way load of stress.

Being human is complicated as opposed to being open to the world which is just awesome to be - but when you are open to the world you are also open to the negativity that spills from it. The major thing is that the people you are close to should be the ones who are worthy of you. Self - love comes from self - esteem and being around positive people makes great lives.

We are all human and not perfect in every way. We are going to make mistakes, make wrong decisions, hurt our near and dear ones, do things to get our way and say certain things that should have never have been said. Its ok I guess because like I always say for me - failure is the best teacher, we all do eventually learn from our mistakes but we sure do rise from them as we are all human. However toxic people are people who don't learn from their mistakes, they don't feel they are wrong even if they hurt you, they always feel they are right.

Toxic People Are :

Control freaks :

Your relationships should let you be what you want to be and not how your friend / partner wants you to be. You can take and give an opinion or an idea but it cant be imposed or forced in any direct or any indirect way. You should have your own space and independence in a relationship and in no way should you feel restricted in any aspect.

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A relationship works both ways, both work towards it to make it work, both do for each other. If you end up doing alone and try your best to make it work and the other person just does not do anything then your the one who is giving everything to the relationship. When we invest in a relationship , we mostly invest emotional energy and that's why we are the most hurt when its one sided. If we would direct our emotional energy to a deserving relationship where the other person equally works towards building on the relationship just like you are, it is totally worth and you are away from toxicity.

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Will never be there to receive you:
You call them as many times or message them , they will respond selectively according to their mood and convenience. They may even keep you guessing if they genuinely could not respond or was it on purpose and will always make you wonder about them as they have already manipulated you into believing that they want u in their lives but will play emotional games and pull you towards them and not be there for you at the time of your need and will have fake convincing excuses ready.

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Recognize the manipulator:

They lie either completely or say half lies. They will make you believe your the best, they will bring you to the top with their words and then crush you somewhere and leave you guessing. They will make you doubt yourself. They will make you feel wanted and then disappear. Also they will tell you things that you really want to hear and will make you very happy but they steal your happiness away. They tease you and make you feel bad and they then make you feel worse for not understanding that it was just harmless teasing. Also if they have your secrets , they will accidentally leak them out and say it was an accident and you wont be able to blame them for it. Its useless arguing with manipulators as they continue to manipulate. The best is to stay away from them as they are toxic. They’ll only hear things through their negative filter, so the more you talk, the more they’ll twist what you’re saying. They want power, not a relationship. They’ll use your weaknesses against you and they’ll use your strengths – your kindness, your openness, your need for stability in the relationship. If they’re showing tenderness, be careful – there’s something you have that they want. Show them the door, and lock it when they leave.

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The one who does everything for you not to follow your dreams :

I believe you need to dream to achieve. That is the whole truth even behind 'the secret'. If you think it, and you think positively about it, it will happen. If you have someone in your life who puts you down about your dreams and does not encourage you or does or says anything directly or indirectly that brings your dreams down for you....that person is surly toxic. The people who tell you that you won’t succeed are usually the ones who are scared that you will. 

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They are Liars

If i have to lie to someone so that I don't hurt the person and the person only has to gain, then it is ok. A lie that will enhance a relationship and not hurt anyone in anyway, is worth it. However lying for personal gain is what a toxic person is always about. Such a lie will always affect the relationship and make it absolutely unhealthy.
You are who you are and not what others want you to be:
If someone constantly tells you - oh my God ! please do your eyebrows, please wear good cloths etc., you lack intelligence, you have no clue about things, you need to be fit...tries to change you constantly. Does not appreciate anything good about you and constantly tells you that you are not good enough and you need to change according to what they think is right, please stay away from these people. You will never be good for them and they will never admit it is the truth. By making you feel small, they feel awesome. Its them who are insecure and by putting you down and seeing it affects you they gain control on you. These people will make you doubt yourself by slowly convincing you that they know best, and that they’re doing it all for you. Its your life, you know what right and wrong, if you feel you don't look good in the mirror , its up to you to decide what to do. If someone finds you dum , then its their problem not yours. Be with people who appreciate you for who you are and not what they want you to be.

They Cheat
Be it your loved one, your family, your friend, they may cheat on you. I guess anything does one could be forgiven depending on the situation but however if cheating becomes a constant habit , then its time to move on from this relationship. Toxic people will cheat after being forgiven. They are surly not worth it. Please keep them out of your life to attract someone better and worth it.
Their Problem is always greater than your problem.
If they have a problem, its a big deal. If you have a problem greater than theirs, it's really ok as you can deal with your problem but they cant deal with their problem. You need to 1st help them fix their problem and then you could deal with yours. Their cellphone would hang and they would make a big deal about it but if you lost your cellphone, its not a problem to them. If people don't care about your problems , and worry about themselves the most - move on to better energy. 

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These people are not toxic as a whole , its their behavior which is toxic and that behavior becomes their habit. Toxic people direct their smartness and intelligence which they have in abundance towards negativity and they definitely lack emotional intelligence. They always will choose to be with kind hearted people who are givers in a relationship as they will definitely get it back from another toxic person. They will always break the kind persons heart who has given so much to the relationship.
Toxic people are dangerously negative to your soul and heart and they should be kept away away away !!! If you are the giver in the relationship and you are trying each time to make it work but you fail and you are unhappy each time, its time to let go and rise to better meaningful non toxic relationships.

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Saturday 26 November 2016

Alone and not Lonely by Ritambhara Sahni

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When people ask me if i am married or not. They are extremely shocked with my answer. Some of them even look at me in pity. I find this really funny. 

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I'm single by choice, in fact i'm really happy and good on my own. I totally believe that only if there is someone who makes you really happy than you already are and you do the same for him then it is worth it to be with that person else i'm good on my own. I'm absolutely proud to be single.

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A lot of people i feel are confused between being alone and loneliness. Although they bring you to the same physical state, there is a distinct difference between the two in terms of emotions.
Here are a few differences that’ll help you identify being alone from being lonely.

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1.. Loneliness and being alone lead to isolation for sure but loneliness is felt at a point when you really dint expect that and you cant get that back either. eg. the loss of a loved one and being alone is finding freedom in isolation. 

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I lived with my father. He never really use to keep well, so I was always by his side. I loved my father so much but when i lost him in 2014 all of a sudden i felt shattered and lonely. However, my brother said to me that i have done everything in my capacity to look after my father and there is nothing i could have done more. His time had come to go. However, he said that now i am free from a responsibility and can go ahead and live my life and do everything i ever wanted to do. My brother helped me to find my freedom in isolation and made me realize that i am only alone and not lonely at that point in time. From a sense of emotional abandon and disconnect I got myself to a state of physical and mental freedom and connected more with myself.

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2 You can cry and hide or you can laugh for no reason.
I decided to be so busy and yes i actually had to tell myself to forget about my father completely. Every time i would think of my father i would get busy and divert my mind. It was not easy but i did so. Whenever a loved one leaves you naturally or unnaturally and their is point of no return, the best thing to do is never to look back as the more you do that you will end up hurting you and lead you to a point to feel lonely. Of course i have not forgotten my father. Its been 2 years and i have written so much about him and my relationship with him. I have realized that he is in a happy place somewhere and i a feel strong and powerful on my own today and i have his strength always within me. I could have chosen to cry and hide but i chose to be occupied and laugh for no reason which i have loved doing ever since childhood.

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2. Loneliness is depending on someone else for happiness and sometimes you end up blaming yourself for it but when you are alone , the happiness is your own and it only comes from loving yourself. When we try to find happiness outside of us , we are dependent for happiness elsewhere and it means we cannot be happy on our own. You are longing and feeling bad for someone or something that does not exist rather than enjoying and being happy with what you have. Somewhere you have the fear that if you don't have someone with you, what will happen. People tell me you must have a partner as what would you do in old age. One of us has to die before the other. I would feel really bad either ways. I'm glad i looked after my dad until the end but when he died , he died suddenly, i was not at home that day. Even if i had children, we don't know what happens at the end. I would not want a family today to support me then. I would want a partner only if we make each other happier than we are. I'm peaceful and happy alone and content from within and i simply follow my heart each time.

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The day you start to know yourself is the day you will start to be happy from within and enjoy being alone.

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Tuesday 25 October 2016

Should the man always pay in a relationship ? -- answered by Ritambhara Sahni

Should the man always pay on a date when in a relationship??

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This article is for females only to understand men better ,  get the man you want more attracted to you and create a great relationship.
So, when my dad and me - Ritambhara Sahni use to teach at our finishing school years back. A lot of females would ask us these question .....
- Who pays on the 1st date or who should usually pay ?
-  Or should it be dutch ? 
-  What happens once you are in the relation with the man ? Then who pays ?
- Should he ask you to contribute each time ? 
- Should i take charge at times ? 

There was always that confusion there.

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Well, In the 70's and 80's in India we were brought up with a mindset that the man is the provider and the woman looks after the house. So it was understood by many women that the man always pays and she never really needs to pay. But she needs to look after him and his family and be a good housewife.  Also women having their careers was considered taboo in so many families and was never appreciated. That was the mindset then.

Today we are in 2016...a lot has changed. In majority of families girls having a career is a must. So one good thing is that now girls do have a career and can be potential providers. Now a days both men and women have careers and married couples who work hire domestic help and continue to live their lives with their careers. However, in terms of dating the above mindset remains the same that the guy always has to pay and be the provider irrespective of the girl having her career :). Also on the flip side many houses have females who work and look after the house. So they are providers and housewives. - Both unfair right ?? 

However...do read ahead....

Well, money is a necessity of course but not everything but it changes the way people think and it changes relationships. So yes , I think this REALLY matters, so please do keep an open mind as you read ahead. However  the bottom line of this article is only to get the man you want more attracted to you and make the relationship last.

The reason why every man should pay on the 1st date as said by many love guru's for men is because he is asking the lady out and he wants to make her feel special. Also when a man decides to split the bill on the 1st date then the impression a female gets is that he does not want to look at her more than a friend but just a buddy. Also if he makes the girl pay when he asks her out then any girl would get switched off and infact feel insulted. She would feel insulted as he asked her on a date to make her feel special and he wanted to spend time with her and she accepted. So yes on date 1 if he has asked her out ...it is given that he should pay.

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 However, according to the survey done in the recent years your behavior on the 1st date matters A LOT. We surveyed many men and there were many men who were so turned off by a woman’s attitude towards money that they instantly switched off from her only because of her attitude with money.
This is a controversial question for some ....i agree to that as well...but read ahead...
So years back and even as of today as we ask this question to so many females that who should be paying in the relationship ? The answer of majority of  women always is that - THE MAN SHOULD PAY :).  Like he is the man , he is the gentleman ...so he should pay.
Ok....so in today's time if i ask females this question that will you do anything that your man or any guy you are on a date with or have been dating asks you to do ?
Ans:....some said depends and most of the women said 'NO' - they wont. They will only do something when both agree. The most important word here is 'BOTH'.

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I'm sorry to break today's reality to you but this is really unfair. If you feel that a guy always should pay, you are indirectly asking him to pay to be with you. And what you are definitely saying is that - ' This relationship isn't equal'. You are saying - ' I am worth more than you and thats why you should pay for it. Thats the message you are actually giving.
On a date if you do not offer to pay at least your share , according to me - Ritambhara Sahni and the surveys done all these years it would truly be inappropriate.  If the man does not pay, then that is absolutely inappropriate . Most men said that they would love to pay but they said that if the woman just does not offer to pay every time, they would not want to be dating them.

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Girls, the reality and the truth is that you need to treat your partner just like you would treat your best buddie. ...that is your best friend. You cannot differentiate how you would treat your best friend and boyfriend in this aspect. You wouldn't tell your best friend that whenever we go out...its you whose always going to be paying. You treat your best friend as an equal , so why not your boyfriend. Maybe you do less...but at least you contribute like a friend.
Also i have been asked this question by many girls that my guy makes me pay always...he never pays.
Well, if the guy expects you to pay always ...its the same thing ...he thinks he is more worth it than you ..

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If your guy plans on a vacation and you can contribute for some part of the vacation, you should put that foot forward. Because what means the most to a guy that you are making an effort to contribute and to be together as a team. When you will not make an effort to contribute , the guy is definitely going to feel used just like your friend would if you would do this with her. A good , confident and self respecting man will feel he is being taken advantage of if the girl does not contribute. This really does not have anything to do with money - but a lack of gesture.
When your in a relationship, treat the relationship just like a relationship with your best friend.

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