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My 1st marriage video

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Hahaha - The guys [un]enthusiasm is hilarious --in contrast to the girls excitement.
Husband : 'togetherness' bahut hai
Wife : 'what do you mean togetherness bahut hai ?'
is so typical .....hahahahaha
Look at how he evades that and brings everything to an end ....
 

Well in India there is a saying that says that ...

' Shaadi ka ladoo  - jo khaye - woh pachtaye aur jo na khaye woh bhi pachtaye'

Which means that if you get married - you suffer

also if you don't get marred - you still suffer.

People are married - some are happily married and some are unhappily married. But I assure you that all of them irrespective of being happy or not are all exactly in a state like the above video :)

Found this video really funny and whoever are the actors - you guys have done a great and realistic job which naturally made me laugh out loud.

The video is so true and is the state I guess of most couples after at least 7 years of marriage [on an average .]

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However , on a serious not - I , Ritambhara Sahni believe that whether you marry or not , its really important to be happy in life. If I find someone who can make me happier than I already am, then marriage is totally worth it for me else I'm happily single.

Do read my essay on Alone and Lonely....

Click here : Ritambhara Sahni on the Power of being Alone. - I am alone and not lonely

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Some of the finest – and funniest – minds in history have waxed lyrical on the joys of wedded bliss. Here are some of their best observations.

1. “I love being married. It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.”
Rita Rudner

2. “If you want your wife to listen to you, then talk to another woman: she will be all ears.”
Sigmund Freud

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3. “Marriage is like a game of chess, except the board is flowing water, the pieces are made of smoke and no move you make will have any effect on the outcome.”
Jerry Seinfeld

4. “Marriage is the bond between a person who never remembers anniversaries and another who never forgets them.”
Ogden Nash

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5. “Marriage is a wonderful institution... but who wants to live in an institution?”
Groucho Marx

6. “No! Please don't eat me! I have a wife and kids – eat them!”
Homer Simpson



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7. “By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you’ll become happy; if you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher.”
Socrates

8. “There is nothing in the world like the devotion of a married woman. It is a thing no married man knows anything about.”
Oscar Wilde

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9. “Marriage is a wonderful invention: then again, so is the bicycle repair kit.”
Billy Connolly

10. “When a man opens a car door for his wife, it’s either a new car or a new wife.”
Prince Philip

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11. “The best way to get most husbands to do something is to suggest that perhaps they’re too old to do it.”
Ann Bancroft

12. “Always get married in the morning. That way if it doesn’t work out, you haven’t wasted the whole day.”
Mickey Rooney

More essays by

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 Ritambhara sahni - her top 3 fears in Life

 

Should the man always pay in a relationship ?? - by Ritambhara Sahni

 

Why he treats you so casually - How to transform your relationship with men - by Ritambhara Sahni

 

The power of being Alone. Alone or lonely ??? by Ritambhara Sahni

 

Who are toxic people ? How to recognize them ? by Ritambhara Sahni

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Alone and not Lonely by Ritambhara Sahni

Ritambhara Sahni on being alone and not lonely

    I AM ALONE BUT DEFINITELY NOT LONELY - RITAMBHARA SAHNI

Ritambhara Sahni on being Happy

When people ask me if i am married or not. They are extremely shocked with my answer. Some of them even look at me in pity. I find this really funny. 

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I'm single by choice, in fact i'm really happy and good on my own. I totally believe that only if there is someone who makes you really happy than you already are and you do the same for him then it is worth it to be with that person else i'm good on my own. I'm absolutely proud to be single.

Find Happiness within - by Ritambhara Sahni

A lot of people i feel are confused between being alone and loneliness. Although they bring you to the same physical state, there is a distinct difference between the two in terms of emotions.
Here are a few differences that’ll help you identify being alone from being lonely.

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1.. Loneliness and being alone lead to isolation for sure but loneliness is felt at a point when you really dint expect that and you cant get that back either. eg. the loss of a loved one and being alone is finding freedom in isolation. 

Alone is full power from within - Ritambhara Sahni blog

I lived with my father. He never really use to keep well, so I was always by his side. I loved my father so much but when i lost him in 2014 all of a sudden i felt shattered and lonely. However, my brother said to me that i have done everything in my capacity to look after my father and there is nothing i could have done more. His time had come to go. However, he said that now i am free from a responsibility and can go ahead and live my life and do everything i ever wanted to do. My brother helped me to find my freedom in isolation and made me realize that i am only alone and not lonely at that point in time. From a sense of emotional abandon and disconnect I got myself to a state of physical and mental freedom and connected more with myself.

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2 You can cry and hide or you can laugh for no reason.
I decided to be so busy and yes i actually had to tell myself to forget about my father completely. Every time i would think of my father i would get busy and divert my mind. It was not easy but i did so. Whenever a loved one leaves you naturally or unnaturally and their is point of no return, the best thing to do is never to look back as the more you do that you will end up hurting you and lead you to a point to feel lonely. Of course i have not forgotten my father. Its been 2 years and i have written so much about him and my relationship with him. I have realized that he is in a happy place somewhere and i a feel strong and powerful on my own today and i have his strength always within me. I could have chosen to cry and hide but i chose to be occupied and laugh for no reason which i have loved doing ever since childhood.

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2. Loneliness is depending on someone else for happiness and sometimes you end up blaming yourself for it but when you are alone , the happiness is your own and it only comes from loving yourself. When we try to find happiness outside of us , we are dependent for happiness elsewhere and it means we cannot be happy on our own. You are longing and feeling bad for someone or something that does not exist rather than enjoying and being happy with what you have. Somewhere you have the fear that if you don't have someone with you, what will happen. People tell me you must have a partner as what would you do in old age. One of us has to die before the other. I would feel really bad either ways. I'm glad i looked after my dad until the end but when he died , he died suddenly, i was not at home that day. Even if i had children, we don't know what happens at the end. I would not want a family today to support me then. I would want a partner only if we make each other happier than we are. I'm peaceful and happy alone and content from within and i simply follow my heart each time.

Embrace the freedom in being alone by Ritambhara Sahni

Happiness is inside of us - Ritambhara Sahni blog

The day you start to know yourself is the day you will start to be happy from within and enjoy being alone.

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Why he treats you so Casually & how to transform your relationship with men forever by Ritambhara Sahni

How to change his casual behavior to the 'ideal guy' behavior and transform your relationship with  him or men forever by Ritambhara Sahni.

 

 

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How to change his casual behavior to the 'ideal guy' behavior and transform your relationship with  him or men forever by Ritambhara Sahni.

 

Does your man treat you the way he wants to and you just cant say anything coz you feel you will lose him ?? Or perhaps get him angry ???
Why is that so many women let men treat them so negligently ???
Are you waiting for him to change one day after being treated like this ??? Do you feel by behaving the way you are behaving he will realize what your worth and treat you the way you should be treated ???
Well chances are that he wont .....so please do read ahead as this will definitely help you to change your relationship with your man the 'way you desire it' and otherwise modify and change your relationship with men forever....Read ahead...
I not only ran Ritambhara Sahni's Institute For the Performing Arts but also had my finishing school known as Ritambhara Sahni's Institute For Self Esteem. We covered many many life changing topics at my school and most of them eventually led to self esteem.



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Today I will talk about a topic which most of the girls and women would talk about those days during the years 1996 and also today as I run belly dance institute Mumbai by Ritambhara Sahni , i still have been asked this question by so many many women in so many different ways.
The question is - Why does my guy / my man treat me this way ? I really want him to be that ideal guy - the right guy.
Well, the answer is in the question itself - he treats you so badly, so casually, like taken for granted is because you allow him to do so...you have given him the permission and that's why you are getting this kind of behavior from him.
You definitely cannot stop anyone from behaving badly but you can control the way you react to their bad behavior because if you don't they are definitely going to walk all over you and treat you lower than you are. Its really at that time you have to decide if you should stay with them or go, if you should say what you feel or just keep quite and let them walk over you whenever they want.
Really ??? Why would you or anyone do that to themselves ??

Why do so many young girls and women permit this behavior time and again ??
Of course its a great reason and the reason is that we love them too much. We love that person so much that you accept anything to be that person....even this disrespectful behavior. Yes you totally accept it and you make excuses to yourself and to the world trying to accept this behavior so that you can be with the person you love.
But we are really forgetting one thing which I need to tell the world from my point of view and that is that love is a great emotion but here we are dealing with Love primarily being a 'selfish' emotion for so many of us today. You want to be with someone you love coz you feel good with that person and to feel that feel you are doing whatever it takes to be with that person. We shall talk about 'selfless' and 'selfish' love in my future posts. Coming back to the topic now ---be it 'selfish' or 'selfless love' - you are being treated the way you are being treated because you think very low of yourself. You do not think you are worth a better behavior from your man / guy because you are settling in for what you are getting from him.
You obviously are and have ways to stay with him because if you leave him, how are you going to feel and more important how will you find this with someone else ??
Mostly in another situation where 'love for a person' would not be involved - you probably would leave or have a different behavior & attitude and different beliefs  & ideas and would make completely different decisions.
This could mean that in office your colleague puts you down, but you don't let that happen, instead you stand up for who you are and do not take that bullshit. You definitely respect what you are and know your worth at work and are quite sure about yourself and thus no one can put you down. You love what you do and respect your work and yourself to be let down. So yes your behavior, attitude, belief and thoughts with your profession and the love of your life is different in this case.
This means that you could advise somebody else to do the right thing for themselves in the exact same or similar situation but when it comes to you , you would not be able to live up to what you preach to others and simply create reasons and situations to stay in the' non-worthy 'relationship. So again a different set of thoughts, beliefs behavior and attitude when it come to you.
The usual reasons and excuses that I have heard of is that....

- oh - he is just too busy, his job is demanding - its not his fault, or
- that's the way he is but he has a lovely side too which I cannot never find n the whole world, ...and many more.
Also I have heard girls and women say,....

 'marriage'- Ritambhara I tell you - its an adjustment. In relationships you really need to be understanding and believe me I am, I forgive and forget and that's how my relation / marriage has come this far... Really ???? The truth is that you are not being honest with yourselves - you are simply justifying to yourself the situation that you are in .

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Ladies - you need to value yourselves more, and you definitely need to communicate honestly with your man / guy so that he knows what your worth for you to come to a level of 'worth it' for him as he is to you. You have to value yourselves high for him to value you high and if you do not communicate honestly about what you don't like and like in a relationship and letting that person walk all over us again and again, then you are giving him no reason or inspiration to change !! Forget change, his behavior will become worse for sure just to see his limits of bad , casual and 'taking for granted' behavior with you. A time may come that he does something so obviously disrespectful like ' actually going with another woman in front of you' , ' taking away all your finances' , and worse things i have witnessed but cannot mention here. But such a time may come and then you would not even be able to make excuses anymore and would have no choice but to leave.
But Ritambhara Sahni cannot say bravo to that . I have seen everyone's friends and family say ' ...

you were really good but its great you saw him finally for what he was'...'now good riddens to bad rubbish' .

My gosh this is not the end....this is where it gets worse. This is the time which is actually the most dangerous for some. You definitely need friends and family to get you strong and make you realize your self- worth but seriously you are your best friend , teacher and guide. Your value for yourself was already low....in this period u definitely think of how long and how much time you gave the relationship, you feel you wasted time and do not feel like being with anyone.
I have heard so many girls say....
- ' now I am done with men' - 'I don't want a man'
or even moms say - ' after my daughters experience - she never wants to marry now'.
But what happens when you give up on love ??? when you give up on finding someone ??? or just have not dated anyone ?? You have created a hugh gap of time and distance ,

and yes I have seen girls eventually start to believe and feel .....

he just did this one bad thing, otherwise he was ok ?? Infact he was good. At least I had someone !!

I cant do better than him and I deserve this behavior from him.
I would say then you actually deserve this behavior from any other guy too. And yes i have seen girls find new love with similar abusive relationships. What really has happened here ????Well....your self worth is the same !!!!

So if you are finding the same things again and again , you are doing the same things again and again is something that you must have heard or read !!!

Well in this case , you need to value yourself higher in order to change the guy or change what kind of guy you get.

In order to change what you going to get , you need to definitely value yourself high and pay attention to your gut and instincts , be it the start of your relationship or a relationship for years. By instincts I mean - moments where you feel -' this may not be right' . Think of your realistic ideal partner and if his behavior is any different from that you expect from your ideal man in terms of the level of value he is placing on you then it is something to think about.
When your gut feeling tells you that 'somethings not right', 'i should not be with this person', 'this is not how a man should behave'......that is just half the bridge crossed. Because most of the women when they reach here....they act against their guts and instincts as their self worth is so low that it refrains them from making the right decision.

You need to have enough self worth to make that right decision and act on it. You need to be fearless to act on your gut. Your fear is that you will not find someone like this guy....or you may not find someone else...But hellooo....we really don't need this guy if he is continuing to behave the way he behaving. You need to have the faith that you will find someone else and again the faith can only come from raising yourself higher than you already think.

You have to go towards the fear to be fearless, you need to take a step back when something is not right and you need to be absolutely positive and certain that you are eventually going to find the right ideal guy.
You have to communicate what your worth in your actions, behavior and words as well as we all are worth it !!
Ritambhara Sahni wants you to REMEMBER:
'When our self worth is low, we can never make the right decisions and we can waste YEARS OF OUR LIFE deliberately., debating not acting on what we know because we don't feel good enough'
' Its very easy to do the wrong thing but extremely difficult to do the right thing.'

Transform your sense of self worth once and for all to not only to clarify your instincts but to trust them. Trust your instincts and act on them . When you act on your instincts - you level up in life. You do things that are scary only because they are the right things to do and they will improve the quality of your life.

Ritambhara Sahni - teacher, leader and motivator

By profession, Currently I teach belly dancing at my institute- Belly Dance Institute Mumbai by Ritambhara Sahni  and I would also like you to read 2 life changing reviews of my students who got empowered with belly dancing and built the self worth to make the right decisions.....Do click on the following links to read these life changing reviews :

Ritambhara Sahni Review :A Girls Broken Engagement of her student

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